The answer is easy – never spank. It’s that simple. People try to complicate it but it is a simple NO! All spanking or beatings do is teach a child that the only way to resolve an issue is by being bigger and stronger than the other person or by having something they can’t do without (like a place to live and food to eat). It is the laziest and most ignorant way of parenting. I cringe when a parent will tell me “John, hit this little boy in school. I was so embarrassed. When he got home, I gave him such a beating so he’ll never hit again.”. My response is always, “So you hit your child to get him to stop hitting and most likely, it’s not the first time you have hit him. Do you see how it doesn’t make any sense?” I never understand how parents don’t see how crazy that is.
There are so many parents that still want to parent by force, instead of by logic or teaching. Sure, the latter takes a lot more work, so what! You will produce more confident, healthier children. It is worth it for you to put in the work. In fact, you owe it to your children. Put in the work now and you and your children will reap the rewards for a lifetime.